Seduction Tips For Men

Un-Plugging from Matrix

Girl Game

200 Women In One Night

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

No, not the entire UCLA Women's Volleyball team suddenly deciding that hugging me nasty in the dark is an obsession they HAVE to fulfill(Although I do love the UCLA Women's Volleyball team!)

No, what pleases me most is hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin' loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I'm about as proud as a hillbilly daddy in a roomful of virgin 13 year olds!

So, imagine my good feelings when I got the following email:

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you - especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things were off to a great start - the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD http://www.speedseduction.biz/products/walkup.php

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING GUYS.

I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD
http://www.speedseduction.biz/products/feartocharisma.php

Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING - he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching him, and there was no more fear of approaches - he hit the100 openers mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I'm sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein - Cork, Ireland

John, what can I say? A huge "right on" for helping out your fellow Speed Seduction® students. May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist relief!

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

He Planned To Approach 100 Women

Every once in a while I get such good emails from students, there's nothing better I can do than to simply let THEM do the talking.

What you are about to read comes from the special "Speed Seduction®" customer forum; a list of nearly 2,000 people world wide who have purchased a Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and daily discuss their challenges, breakthroughs, questions and experiments. I’m very proud of this resource I provide, because it lets students not only talk with me, but with each other, and
having that community supporting your learning can be a big boost of confidence.

With that in mind, here’s a student’s progress report he posted on his plans to approached 100 women. Pay special attention to his brilliant advice on overcoming the fear of “failure”.

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Dear Ross and seduction brothers,

From talking with the awesome brothers in the Boston area it became obvious from their comments that the only way to get better at walk-ups is to do a lot of them. So Eric suggested this approach, which worked very well: choose a number of walk-ups to do, and go with the EXPECTATION of getting shot down.

That's somewhat paradoxical but that's what makes it work. So I set my goal at a 100. I've already done 50, and this is the half-time report.

It's been FANTASTIC (aside from getting enthusiastic phone numbers from women who even have boyfriends and very positive responses). Going with the expectation of let me get another one on my list makes things a WHOLE LOT easier. There's no hurt, no rejection, it's just another notch. "Here goes number 33."

INSTEAD of going with the goal of I am going to get this many phone numbers, and feeling good/bad depending on the outcome, go with the goal I'm just going to have fun getting shot down this many times and learning. Then, it's piece of cake to learn.

SET a concrete number of approaches you want, and do it. You WILL be successful at doing that.

Basically, now, I feel comfortable approaching almost any woman under any condition (the train, a coffee shop, etc.). It really is a LEAP from where I was before.

My state is infinitely more solid... and while I can get better with very attractive women, I lead with much greater ease, I deal with most objections right away, and I'm able to instill comfort/ease/trust almost instantaneously.

I can only imagine what will happen when I get to 100. But I'm not worried about that... I just need to get 50 more under my belt.

(Techniques That Helped Him Do It!)

Now here're a few techniques you may want to use: Talking with other SSers: I cannot say enough about this. The Boston team is great, and posting/reading up people's SS postings while doing the above is both encouraging as well as enlightening. I just want to thank the thoughtful people who post quality emails ... some of us really appreciate it.

Self-reward and -analysis: Always pat yourself in the back after making an approach or every few approaches. It works. It sounds funny but you feel better when you tell yourself 'good job' and give yourself a pat in the back.

Every say 5 approaches analyze what you did... think how you could have done it concretely better... and replay in your mind how you'd have done it. DON'T analyze every time, do it every say 5 times.

Women are random and if you analyze it each time you'll NOT see the real pattern. No pun intended. :) But the exercise (AGAIN) is not to get better, although you naturally will, but just to get across the X number of getting shot-down.

Fear of failure and safety: Early on I sat down and asked myself what in the world was holding me back from approaching beautiful (physically, intellectually, spiritually) women and making their lives sheer beauty, wonder, delight... and I realized... it was just a simple fear of failing.

What if I make a fool out of myself? What if I fall on my face? What if I just annoy her? Being someone who's successful at a lot of things he's tried in life this was a BIG one.

But then after some thought I realized it was a paradox. THE BIGGEST FAILURE IS TO FEAR FAILURE. If you fear failure, then you're GUARANTEED to fail every time.

Think about it. Think about this for long enough and it'll BLOW your mind AND any fear of failure you have out of the water. DRILL on any such feelings with this paradox.

If you fear failure, YOU WILL FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME. It's a complete guarantee. So THAT FEAR IS ITSELF the BIGGEST FAILURE.

Secondly, often we want to be 'safe.' But usually, safe from what?? Safe from success, safe from learning how to move women in ways that may astonish us. Do you want to be safe from success? Really? Think about your whole life ... do you want to be safe repeating that SAME pattern?

If these are issues for you, I'd try meditate on these two ideas, after some breathing exercises, and you may find, like I did, that meditation affecting your whole life timeline, going to the deepest crevices of your being, and you will be decontaminated from those thoughts in a couple hours or days.

Don't be surprised to see your whole physiology changing. This is not just pattern language... my whole body felt it. Use the titanium drill of the paradoxes to destroy those filthy mental microbes.

Best regards, Stephen/Angelo

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Ok. Ross here again. This student really got it when he talked about the paradox of fearing failure actually being the biggest guarantee of failure.

You see, as I have said before, it is the meaning you assign to things that determines how you will feel about them. If you assign the meaning that you MUST “succeed” with every beautiful girl you see, you are going to drive yourself nuts with all sorts of unneeded fear and stress.

When you assign the right meaning to things; that you are just practicing and you are intending to fall on your face, just to practice, suddenly it loses its importance and paradoxically,
you do a lot better with a lot less effort.

My own personal beliefs about meeting and seducing women are, “Let’s go have some fun with her and find out what she’s like” and “I will either get what I want or learn what I need to in order to get what I want or even better next time”.

Try THOSE on for size, and see what happens to any fear of approaching women.

‘Til next time.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

Get Any Girl Steaming Hot

In the last issues, I laid out the basic operating theory of Speed Seduction: that women have internal, subjective "recipes" for love, lust, chemistry, attraction etc that they run on themselves quite outside of their conscious awareness.

I pointed out also a that this "process" produces the "feelings" that they base their actions, decisions and choices on when it comes to us poor horny men!.

Therefore, as smart guys, we are no longer going to be fooled by "dating" thinking or "dating" questions which entirely ignore this vital information about how women get "feelings" and what is really important for us as seducers to think about.

So instead of being what I call A.F.C's(Average Frustrated Chumps) we are going to learn to enter of the world of Speed Seduction® and learn to rapidly trigger these internal feeling recipes that produce these feeling "states" so we can quickly and easily enjoy power, choice and variety with women most guys just have to wish and long for.

The key then is to ask the question: What kind of "states" do I want this woman to experience with me? And how can I trigger these states using my language: the themes I talk about, the stories I tell, the descriptions of my experiences I give, and the questions I ask?

You see, one key secret to getting a woman to undergo all her internal feeling recipes or "states" is..

GET HER TO TALK ABOUT THEM!

Yes, my friends, old Guru Ross clears up another mystery here: by talking about "feelings" women tend to unconsciously trigger their internal feeling "recipes" or processes, which
then of course..

Makes the Feelings More Vivid And Real!

For men, talking is mostly about conveying a message or information. It can be the same for women, but much the time, talking is their way of unconsciously triggering these "recipe" programs that run outside of their awareness, so they can..

Enjoy These Intense Feelings Again!

What I am saying here is that there is an actual ongoing brain process where-by the language centers of the brain, when triggered by speech, somehow stimulate or cause her internal feeling recipes or processes for love, lust, atraction(or any other strong feeling state, positive or negative) so that these processes get run again and she can have the "feeling" experience.

Hey..I just explained TWO mysteries: why women are so "into" their "feelings" and why they love to talk so much! Nobel Prize, anybody?

Ok. Let's now give you a peek at some of the actual Speed Seduction® tools you can use over coffee, on a first meeting, or wherever you find yourself talking to a woman.

The first tool I want to introduce you to is conversational set ups and themes.

You see, it usually isn't considered normal or socially acceptable to launch into immediate discussions of have women experience "attraction" "chemistry" "connection" or "lust".

As important as these experiences may be, you need some way of introducing them into conversation so you appear to be a normal, non-threatening guy.

So let me introduce you to some key part of the Speed Seduction framework. In the brief example below we'll talk about conversational set-ups, quotes, embedded commands, priming
patterns and trigger questions. Used in combination, these can get a woman to unconsciously run virtually any feeling recipe/state so she has the resulting feelings that will lead to the behaviors you want.

Conversational Set-Ups

Conversational set ups allow you, after just a bit of small talk, to bring up those themes, subjects and topics that are far more likely to trigger these "states" we are after in a woman: deep rapport, comfort, connection, fascination, lust, desire, chemistry etc.

Again, they let you avoid the taboo against discussing such things right off the bat or discussing them directly with someone you just met. And you can't just walk up to a woman and command, "YOU WILL FEEL LUST FOR ME".

A good way to bring up these "heavier" topics is to use a pattern called quotes. Quotes involves simply quoting a conversation or topic that you were having with a friend, or something that you heard in a seminar or read in a magazine or saw on t.v.

Quotes allow you to naturally bring up almost any topic in a non-threatening way. Why? Because you aren't addressing something to her directly. Just quoting what you said or heard said. So it is less threatening.

Also, we tend to use this pattern in language naturally all the time ANYWAY, as in, "Did you hear what Ross said to Rachel on "Friends"? etc etc.etc. The unconscious mind tends to recognize patterns of communication more than it does actual content. So if it feels to the unconscious like a natural pattern of comunication(quoting someone else) then the actual content becomes a lot more acceptable.

So let's say you want to trigger that subjective "state" in a woman that involves feeling like there is a wild adventure- a real opportunity she has to act on RIGHT now or she'll lose it forever.

Here's how to use quotes to bring it up,

"You know, I was having the most interesting discussion the other night with an old friend I had not seen in years(Conversational set-up, quoting you and your friend)

The next thing we are going to do is use a bit of language I call a "weasel phrase". Weasel phrases just set up the person to make a deep search of their inner experience without making it seem like you are giving a direct command.

You can't directly say, for example, "I command you to go inside your memory and remember what it is like to feel something and then feel that way with me".

Instead, when you use the weasel phrase "have you ever" it is actually a command but it sounds like an innocent question.

For example, if I wrote, "Have you ever read something and it just seemed so fascinating, you realized you want to learn more/"

It's actually a command to go into your memory and recall it, but it is much easier to disguise the command into the form of a question about your experience because that way you don't
resist it.

Make sense? Let's continue with our example

"By the way, HAVE YOU EVER just had a friend, and you could just FEEL SO COMFORTABLE…FEEL SO CLOSE(embedded commands-giving her commands to feel comfortable and close by bringing up the situation and hiding the commands inside a description of the situation-sneaky, isn't it). You could just FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANTHING?(another command to feel free to talk).

Notice here we threw in a few suggestions and commands: FEEL SO COMFORTABLE. FEEL SO CLOSE. FEEL LIKE YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING.

We didn't suggest or command directly. We hid them inside that "have you ever" weasel phrase-something that looked a question about her experience but was actually a command to go inside and search her memory.

Sneaky, sneaky, I know. But it works. Onward.

"So we were talking about how sometimes life presents an opportunity..and you realize that if you don't take the opportunity to have an adventure, you'll lose it forever.(focusing in on the topic now)

Ok. Now we are going to use a "pattern" or priming example: this is a description of your experience or someone else's experience. It is designed to "prime the pump" and begin to activate the structures of her brain and mind that produce and run her "recipes" as we discussed in the last newsletter.

"Like for example he was telling me how he had a chance to take a police car for a joy-ride..and how he could just FEEL THIS EXCITEMENT(another command embedded in your story) and it
was just like this other part of him came out and he had to take this ride."

Note that little bit about "take this ride"-said with the right tonality it becomes a piece of sexual metaphor. This a way to help guide the "recipe" process towards triggering something that will produce sexual feelings. Note that it is not guaranteed to do this, by itself. It is just priming the pump. A start.

Now we are going to use "have you ever again" again to get her to talking. Why? Because please remember it is by talking women revivify and trigger their most intense and important feeling processes/recipes.

When she talks about her processes and "recipes" and experiences, she can experience the intense feelings we want her to have, and then we can link them to us.

Using "Have You Ever" A Second Time

We've used "have you ever" once to begin to prime her memory. Now we use "have you ever" again but this time it will activate those feeling recipes and processes by getting her to talk about them.:

"So I think because you can learn a lot about a person from that, have you ever had an experience like that..where you just had to go with an adventure that was in your path…take a ride that just seemed so irresistible?"

What have we done here? In just a few minutes we:

1. introduced a topic, guided her memory and imagination for a very important and powerful feeling "recipe" and process

2. gotten her to talk about it to revivify it and make it real again, all in what sounds like an innocent and completely normal conversation.

Not bad at all. Considering you can learn to do this in a 20 minute conversation, and you begin now to see the potential for unleashing your love life!

One more point: when you watch a woman as she describes these experiences, you will see her begin to strongly have these feelings. Often her face will flush, her breathing will get heavier, and she'll get what I call DDBL or the..

Doggie Dinner Bowl Look!

This is an expression similar to the ones my Dalmations I had as a kid would get when I would show them the can of dog food through the window so they knew it was feeding time!

Now, once a woman is experiencing these strong feeling states in your presence, because she's running her internal"feeling recipe" it's really only a short matter of time before you are baking your brownies in her oven(to use a metaphor again!).

Remember: women act on strong feelings. As long as the feelings are there, as the end result of her running her internal "recipes" she will not in any way realize or know how they came about.

She will only feel them, feel happy they are there and feel glad that you will be feeling her in all those ways her nice guy "friends" will never get to.

Ok. I don't want to overwhelm you . The study of using conversational set ups, quotes, priming patterns, embedded commands, command questions and other tools-this study is the
core of Speed Seduction. But do go out and try some of this stuff and you'll be shocked to see it works and works amazingly well.

Just remember a key rule: Speed Seducers never communicate just to be flapping your lips. Communicate with an outcome inmind so you can direct and trigger her feeling "recipes" in the direction you want, you the result you want is what you get!

Til next time,

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries

P.S. As I said in a previous issue, this way of speaking may seem strange to you as a guy, and that is a GOOD thing. It's not supposed to be the kind of thing we GUYS respond to. It IS what women love, what triggers their deeper level emotional centers, and what stimulates their fantasies and sexual desires.